Attachment-based therapy:
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Relationship Issues
The quality of our relationships has been scientifically proven to have the greatest impact on our overall happiness. Therefore, I believe the most fulfilling and meaningful work that we can do as individuals is learn how to create healthy, secure, and meaningful relationships. However, no one teaches us how to cultivate effective and healthy relationships. I'm here to help you process all of your feelings in an open, safe, and nonjudgemental environment. I use Attachment-Based Therapy to help you understand your feelings, the patterns you may be seeing in your relationship, where they may stem from, and help you to create the relationship you desire and deserve.
𑁍 break unhelpful relationship patterns
𑁍 build healthy, secure, and fulfilling relationships
𑁍 improve every relationship in your life
Anxious Attachment
Anxious attachment is one of the attachment styles identified within attachment theory, which explores the ways individuals form emotional bonds with one another. If you've found yourself on this page it's quite likely you may have already done some research on attachment and are aware that you are anxiously attached. Otherwise, maybe you're reading this wondering what anxious attachment is and if you qualify. If so, hopefully the information provided will help give further clarity. Either way, I am so glad that you're here because understanding your attachment style is the most rewarding and crucial step you can take to building the secure and healthy relationship that you desire and deserve.
𑁍 build greater self-awareness about how you show up in relationships and why
𑁍 break unhelpful patterns to build healthier and more secure relationships
𑁍 gain greater security and self-worth
Perfectionism
Do you often say phrases like "Oh, I'm such a perfectionist," as if it is part of your personality, but underneath you have a deep-seated fear that your perfectionism is controlling your life? Our culture has somehow co-opted perfectionism as a personality trait to mean: successful, overachiever, with excessive attention to detail. However, being a perfectionist is not actually a personality trait, it is a set of behaviors that can sometimes be helpful, but have the capacity to be incredibly harmful to your self-esteem, relationships, and overall happiness.
My goal within our work together is to help you understand the strengths within your perfectionism, as well as the unhealthy behaviors you're experiencing and alter them to allow you to live a life of greater joy, fulfillment, and freedom.
𑁍 build greater self-awareness around behaviors fostered by your perfectionism
𑁍 learn helpful strategies to reduce unhealthy perfectionism behaviors and utilize your strengths
𑁍 build greater self-compassion and self-acceptance
People-Pleasing
People-pleasing is the pattern of constantly trying to make others happy, often at the expense of your own needs, desires, and well-being. While it might feel good in the moment to avoid conflict or gain approval, it can lead to emotional exhaustion, resentment, and a loss of self-identity. Over time, people-pleasing can cause us to neglect our own boundaries, making it difficult to assert ourselves and prioritize our needs. Ultimately, it can erode self-esteem and lead to feelings of burnout and dissatisfaction.
𑁍 Learn where your people-pleasing stems from.
𑁍 Learn how to set healthy boundaries and prioritize your own needs.
𑁍 Learn effective communication strategies.
𑁍 Develop greater self-worth and internal freedom.
Anxiety
Anxiety is a feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease about something with an uncertain outcome. It can manifest physically and mentally, causing symptoms like rapid heartbeats, sweating, and a constant sense of dread. While occasional anxiety is normal, chronic anxiety can be debilitating, interfering with daily life and making it hard to focus or enjoy simple activities. Over time, unchecked anxiety can negatively affect relationships, work, and overall well-being.
𑁍 Learn new coping skills to reduce your anxiety symptoms.
𑁍 Increase your self-awareness and what causes your anxiety.
𑁍 Identify and challenge negative thought patterns that contribute to anxiety.
Life Transitions
Life transitions are significant changes or shifts in our circumstances, such as moving to a new city, changing careers, or experiencing a loss. These transitions can bring both exciting opportunities and challenging adjustments. While they often mark a new chapter in life, they can also trigger stress, uncertainty, and feelings of being overwhelmed. The emotional impact of transitions can lead to confusion, self-doubt, and a sense of loss, as we navigate the unfamiliar and try to adapt to new realities. How we manage these changes can affect our mental and emotional health, shaping how we grow and find meaning in the process.
𑁍 Build greater self-awareness about what you’re feeling and where it stems from.
𑁍 Re-assess what your values are and how to prioritize them in this new phase of life.
𑁍 Learn healthy coping mechanisms.
𑁍 Create a future that provides great meaning and fulfillment.
Athletes/Retired Athletes
Athletes, both active and retired, often face unique mental health challenges due to the intense pressures and demands of their careers. Active athletes may struggle with performance anxiety, fear of injury, and maintaining peak physical condition, while retired athletes often experience a loss of identity, purpose, and routine after leaving their sport. The transition from a highly structured life to one with less focus and direction can lead to feelings of isolation, depression, and anxiety. Without the daily routine of training and competition, retired athletes may also battle issues like loneliness, low self-esteem, and difficulty finding new goals or passions. These experiences can significantly impact their mental well-being, requiring support and coping strategies to adjust to life after sports.
𑁍 Reduce anxiety and build greater coping skills to manage stress and pressure.
𑁍 Improve self-esteem and self-worth.
𑁍 Explore your true values and identity.
𑁍 Learn how to use your sports experience and translate it to success in retirement.
Adult Children of Narcissistic Parents
Adult children of narcissists often grow up in an environment marked by emotional manipulation, neglect, or excessive control. They may struggle with feelings of inadequacy, low self-worth, and difficulty trusting others, as their emotional needs were often disregarded or invalidated. The impact of this upbringing can carry into adulthood, leading to issues such as anxiety, depression, and challenges in forming healthy relationships. These individuals might find it hard to set boundaries, feel guilty for asserting themselves, or struggle with a constant need for approval. The lasting effects of growing up with a narcissistic parent can have a profound impact on mental health, making healing and self-empowerment essential parts of their recovery journey.
𑁍 We will learn where your core beliefs stem from and the unhelpful patterns and thoughts that your parents may have engrained in you.
𑁍 We will work to find your true authentic values and learn how to live a more aligned and meaningful life.
𑁍 We will build greater self-worth that isn’t defined by any outside voices.
𑁍 Together we will identify useful coping techniques and relational strategies to handle future situations with your parents more effectively.
