Perfectionism

Do you often say phrases like "Oh, I'm such a perfectionist," as if it is part of your personality, but underneath you have a deep-seated fear that your perfectionism is controlling your life? Our culture has somehow co-opted perfectionism as a personality trait to mean: successful, overachiever, with excessive attention to detail. However, being a perfectionist is not actually a personality trait, it is a set of behaviors that can sometimes be helpful, but have the capacity to be incredibly harmful to our self-esteem, relationships, and overall happiness. If you're unsure if your perfectionism is harming you, I've included some examples below.

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→ You have high and inflexible standards for yourself that cause you (and sometimes others) significant stress.

→ You have an intense fear of failure (Failure could be making mistakes, not being liked, being judged, not earning enough, being socially awkward, etc.)

→ You suffer from relentless self-criticism.

→ You avoid situations that are new to you for fear of failing.

→ You feel yourself constantly re-checking your work even when it is of little importance.

→ You feel there is no such thing as "good enough," only perfect.

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therapy for perfectionism can help you

Together we will work to set you free from perfectionism.

𑁍 Understand the strengths within your perfectionism, as well as the unhealthy behaviors you're experiencing and alter them to allow you to live a life of greater joy, fulfillment, and freedom.

𑁍 Learn better ways to manage stress and manage energy to reduce burnout from perfectionism.

𑁍 Learn how to utilize your perfectionsim in healthy ways and let go of unhelpful rigid standards.

benefits of therapy for perfectionism: 

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Build greater self-awareness and self-compassion.

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Let go of unhealthy patterns of behavior.

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Experience greater joy and freedom.

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This is how you get started with therapy for perfectionism:

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Schedule a free 20 minute Zoom consultation to see if we would be a good fit for therapy.

After our consultation, if we determine that we would like to move forward with working together we will get ongoing sessions scheduled.

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Begin our work together toward greater security, self-worth, and more fulfilling relationships.

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Are you ready to transform your life?

  • "I am a recovering perfectionist and an aspiring "good enoughist"."

    Brené Brown

  • "Perfectionism is internalized oppression."

    Gloria Steinem

  • "Where perfectionism is driving, your shame is driving shotgun."

    Brené Brown

  • "How liberating it is to pursue wholeness instead of perfection."

    MHN